Brockporter Thought For The Day - Perhaps common decency is as good as if not better than love

"...I find it natural to discuss life without ever mentioning love.

It does not seem important to me.

What does seem important? Bargaining in good faith with destiny.

I have had some experiences with love, or think I have, anyway although the ones I have liked best could easily be described as 'common decency'. I treated somebody well for a little while, or maybe even for a tremendously long time, and that person treated me well in turn. Love need not have anything to do with it.

Also: I cannot distinguish between the love I have for people and the love I have for dogs."

Slapstick, Kurt Vonnegut

In my own life, and in the lives of people I have worked with in psychotherapy, love is often missing and sometimes common decency as well. Like Kurt I have decided to lower my expectations and no longer expect love. I still hope for it, and it is lovely when it shows up and a marvel to behold,  but I have learned that love is not be expected and in its true form, unconditional, is rare. Common decency, on the other hand, is to be expected and it is everyone's birth right.