My fiance is always late. It drives me nuts. I have constantly reminded her, and told her how much her tardiness bothers me, and even tried telling her that the appointed time is 30 minutes earlier and still she is late. I love her, but lately I have thought of breaking off the engagement. I can't imagine living my life like this. Do you have any suggestions?
Sincerely,
Mike
Dear Mike:
To be frank, I'd break off the engagement. People like this don't change. She is on her own time and in her narcissistic world that's all that matters. Making people wait especially when it becomes a pattern can be a symptom of many things, but even if you knew what it is, it wouldn't make any difference unless your fiance takes responsibility for her own unreliability and steps up and becomes punctual.
Luckily, you have become aware of a character defect in your potential partner before you make a solemn commitment. Get out while the getting is still good without a lot of legal baggage. She might be a wonderful woman, and you might love her dearly, but character traits are very difficult to change and it seems you have hung in there and tried more than enough. As you have learned the hard way one of the biggest tragedies in life is to fall in love with someone who isn't any good for you.
Let her go and save yourself a lifetime of aggravation.
Best wishes,
Ms. Emily
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